Islam on Blue Films

Every Friday we hear the Imam conclude his sermon by reciting the following verse of the Quran:

"Surely God enjoins justice, kindness and the doing of good, to kith and kin; and He forbids all that is shameful, indecent, evil, rebellious and oppressive." InnaAllah Yamuru bil adel, wal ehsane, wa itae zil qurba; wa yanha anil fuhshae, wal munkari walbaghi; yaizukhum lallakum tazakkaroon. (Quran 16:90)

Pornography and the culture of pornography has all the three elements which God has prohibited in the above verse of the Quran: Fuhsha; Munkar, baghi. Here is a bit of terminology before we review the rest of the evidence prohibiting pornography.

Fuhsha:

According to the Al-Mawrid Arabic-English dictionary of Munir Baalbaki, Fuhash is obscenity, vulgarity, indecency, shamelessness and something that is dirty, filthy and foul. Al-Mawrid's English-Arabic dictionary translates pornographic as Fahish. The Hans Wehr Dictionary Of Modern Written Arabic adds monstrosity, abomination, vile deed and fornication to its meaning as well.

Fuhsha, translated as anything shameful, is a Quranic term which in the Quran and Hadith has been used widely for unIslamic sexual behavior. The Quran uses it as in the above verse (Quran 16:90). It is a set of vices that embraces the whole range of evil and shameful deeds. Scholars of the Quran have included every vice which is intrinsically of a highly reprehensible character into this category whether it be fornication, nudity, public foreplay as depicted in films and photos, pornography, hurling abuses and curse words, promiscuous mixing, or dresses designed to expose the body. At the highest level of Fuhsha, Allah has included adultery (Quran 17:32) and same gender sex (Quran 7:80; 27:54).

All scholars agree pornography is included in the term Fuhsha.

Al-Munkar

Al-Mawrid English - Arabic Dictionarydescribes Munkar as gross, abominable, detestable, atrocious, outrageous, flagrant.

As a major Quranic term it means something which is universally acknowledged as bad and immoral. This category includes all evils which have been unanimously condemned by the human conscience and which have been forbidden by Divine Law in all ages.

People of all faiths abhor pornography. Even the norms of American society do not allow its propagation in mainstream newspapers and prime time TV, forcing it to hide in dark alleys. Those who are addicted to pornography try to watch it mostly discreetly. This indicates that it is a universally accepted immoral act which Quran calls al-Munkar.

Al-Baghi

According to Al-Mawrid English - Arabic dictionary, this term means wrong, injustice, outrage, and transgression.

Al-Baghi in the Quranic terminology means transgression and trespassing into the space and the rights of others, whether those rights be of God or of a fellow human being. Pornography is a transgression towards God as well as towards human beings and animals. The pornographic industry trespasses on the rights of women especially by turning them into sex objects. Pornographic emails trespass the private email boxes of Americans at least four times a day.

God is Against Pornography (Fuhsha) whether Open or Hidden

"Tell them (O Muhammad): 'My Lord has only forbidden indecent acts, whether overt or hidden?"

innama haram rabbial fawahisha ma zahar aminha wma batan.. (Quran 7:33).

Therefore, watching pornography or other indecent acts in the privacy of the home or on the internet is also forbidden.

Allah Asks Us Not to Even Go Close to It

"Say to them (O Muhammad!) ?do not even draw near to things shameful–be they open or secret;? " (Quran 6:151 partial)

?wa la taqrabul fawahisha ma zahara minha wa ma batan?

Allah has mentioned this instruction along with shirk and murder which means that Allah considered shameful things like pornography among the major sins.

Allah knows best. He knows His creation. He knows that we are weak. Therefore, He likes us to stay away from shameful things.

Those who Propagate Shameful things among the Believers

"Verily those who love that indecency should spread among the believers deserve a painful chastisement in the world and in the Hereafter. Allah knows, but you do not know." Quran 24:19

Innal lazeena yuhibbuna an tasheeal fahishatu fillazeena amanou lahum azabun aleemun fid dunya wal akhirate, wallahu yalamu wa antum la talamoon.

The words used in the verse (fahishatu) embrace all the various forms that might be used to spread shameful and lewd behavior though any means be it pictures, films, or internet. 

Don't follow Satan

At several places in the Quran, God warns us not to follow the steps of Satan: "He will incite you for shameful things (fuhsha) and encourage you to do universally accepted wrong things (al-munkar) Quran 24:21

Restrain Your Gaze & Guard Your Private Parts

"Enjoin believing men to restrain their gaze and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Surely Allah is well aware of all what they do.

And enjoin believing women to restrain their gaze and guard their private parts and additionally not to reveal their adornment except that which is revealed of itself." Quran 24:30-31

Sayings of the Prophet: Hadith

No man or woman should look at the naked body of each other (unless married). Sahih Muslim

By God, I would prefer to be thrown from the skies and spatterred in parts than to look at someone's private parts or let someone look at my private parts. Narrated by Salman. Almabsooth kitabul istehsan.

Don't expose your thigh to anyone and don't look at the thigh of any person even if s/he is dead. Narrated Ali ibn abi Talib. Ibn e Maja, Abi Dawud, Darqutani. Tafseer Kabeer

Once someone's thigh was open in public. The Prophet said don't you know thigh is supposed to be kept covered? Jerhad Aslami. Muatta Imam Malik, Tirmidhi, Abu Dawud

Allah has written for Adam's son his share of adultery which he commits inevitably. The adultery of the eyes is the sight (to gaze at a forbidden thing), the adultery of the tongue is the talk, and the inner self wishes and desires and the private parts testify all this or deny it. Abu Hurairah. Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawud.

Other Scholarly Perspectives

"It's absolutely Haram," notes Shaykh Muhammad Nur Abdullah. He is the Imam of the Islamic Foundation of Greater St. Louis in Missouri.

"If someone is looking at someone committing Zina (sex outside of marriage) whether it is in movies or pictures or the actual thing, it's all Haram," he adds.

"Pornographic pictures and movies are haram (prohibited). Muslims should not watch, sell or make such movies. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, is reported to have said: 'The eyes commit adultery, the tongue commits adultery, the hands commit adultery, the feet commit adultery and then the private parts confirm it or deny it." (Reported by Ahmad Ibn Hanbal)

"This means that watching pornographic movies, listening to such songs or singing them, using one's hands and feet for this purpose, all these are sins that are related to Zina and then the final act of Zina takes place through haram intercourse." Dr. Muzammil Siddiqi

Logging in and browsing pornographic sites is forbidden because a Muslim is always commanded to lower his/her gaze, let alone give a loose rein to his/her ? eyes to look at the private parts of others.

May Allah keep us all safe spiritually and physically.

By Abdul Malik Mujahid

Source:http://www.soundvision.com/article/islam-on-pornography-a-definite-no-no

Erotomania

'मनोसेक्स-विकृति' का ही रूप है 'गे', 'लेस्बियन','सटाइरोमैनिया', व 'निम्फोमैनिया'

‘इरोटोमैनिया(erotomania)’ ही ले जाता है ‘मनोसेक्स-विकृति’ की ओर

‘मनोसेक्स-विकृति’ का ही रूप है ‘गे’, ‘लेस्बियन’,'सटाइरोमैनिया’, व ‘निम्फोमैनिया’

‘इरोटोमैनिया(erotomania)’ नामक ‘साइकोसेक्सुअल-डिसआर्डर(psychosexual disorder)’ या मनोसेक्स विकृति से ग्रसित लोगो के मन में हर वक़्त सेक्स के भावनाए व विचार उनके अर्धचेतन मन में चलते रहते है और बार-बार ऐसे कृत्य के लिए उन्हें विवश और बेचैन करते है |
‘इरोटोमैनिया’ मुख्यतः दो प्रकार के होते है | ‘होमोसेक्सुअल-इरोटोमैनिया(homosexual erotomania)’ व ‘हेट्रोसेक्सुअल-इरोटोमैनिया(hetrosexual erotomania)’ |
‘होमोसेक्सुअल-इरोटोमैनिया’ से ग्रसित लोगो में समलिंगी सेक्स सम्बन्ध बनाने की लत होती है | पुरुष होमोसेक्सुअल ‘गे’(gay) और महिला होमोसेक्सुअल ‘लेस्बियन’(lesbian) कहे जाते है | इस प्रकार पुरुष होमोसेक्सुअल या ‘गे’ अधिक से अधिक पुरुषो से सेक्स सम्बन्ध बनाने के मादक खिचाव से ग्रसित होता है तथा महिला होमोसेक्सुअल या लेस्बियन अधिक से अधिक महिलाओं से ही सेक्स सम्बन्ध बनाने के लिए आसक्त होती है | इसी प्रकार ‘हेट्रोसेक्सुअल-इरोटोमैनिया’ से ग्रसित लोग विपरीत लिंग या अपोजिट जेंडर के लोगों से अधिक से अधिक सेक्स सम्बन्ध बनाते रहते है | इससे ग्रसित पुरुष के अधिक से अधिक महिलाओं से सेक्स सम्बन्ध बनाने की लत को ‘सटाइरोमैनिया’(satyromania) या पालीगैमी(polygamy) तथा इससे ग्रसित महिलाओं में अधिक से अधिक पुरुषों से सेक्स सम्बन्ध बनाने की मनोवृत्ति हावी रहती है, जिसे निम्फोमैनिया(nymphomania) या एंड्रोगैमी(androgamy) कहा जाता है | ‘इरोटोमैनिया’ के कुछ अन्य रूप भी देखने को मिलते है, जिसमे जानवरों के साथ सेक्स करने की लत जिसे ‘बीस्टोफिलिया’(beastophilia) तथा बच्चो के साथ सेक्स करने की लत जिसे ‘पीडोफिलिया’(paedophilia) नाम से संबोधित किया जाता है |

इसके अलावा कुछ लोग विपरीत लिंग अन्तःवस्त्रो(undergarments) से सेक्स आनंद की प्राप्ति करते है जिसे फेटिसिज्म(fetishism) तथा विपरीत लिंग के जननांगो के स्पर्श से सेक्स आनंद की प्राप्ति करने वाले फ्राट्युरिज्म(frotteurism) कहते है | इतना ही नहीं कुछ लोग विपरीत लिंग के अन्तःअंगो को चोरी छिपे देखने की लत से ग्रसित होते है जिसे वायुरिज्म(voyeurism) कहते है तथा विपरीत लिंग के वस्त्रो को धारण करने की लत को ट्रांसवेस्तिज्म(transvestism) कहते है | इतना ही नहीं कुछ लोग मुर्दों के साथ भी सेक्स करने की लत से ग्रसित होते है जिसे निक्रोफिलिया(necrophilia) कहते है |

इस प्रकार इरोटोमैनिया’ के इन विभिन्न रूपों से ग्रसित अपनी इस लत से न तो तृप्त हो पाते है और चाह कर भी इससे निकल नहीं पाते है तथा छदम शुकून की प्राप्ति की विवशता में ऐसे कृत्य करते जाते है | परन्तु आगे चल कर उनके मन में अपराधबोध, सामाजिक शर्म व् कुंठा बढ़ने लगती है | परन्तु वे अपनी इस लत की विवशतावश इस मनोभावों को सप्रेस या दमित करते रहते है | इस प्रकार उनका मन मानसिक रस्साकस्सी व द्वन्द में फंस कर धीरे-धीरे घोर अवसाद की स्थिति में आ जाता है और अपने मनोद्वंदव हताशा से मुक्ति पाने के लिए उनमे आत्महत्या तक कर लेने की सोच बन जाती है|

भारत की पहली टेलीफोनिक साइकोथिरेपी सेवा मनदर्शन हेल्पलाइन 09453152200 से संपर्क में आये बहुत से लोग जो की अब घोर अवसाद की स्थिति में आ चुके है,अपनी इस लत की गोपनीयता के आधार पर स्वीकारोक्ति की है | इतना ही नहीं, इनमे नशाखोरी तथा पोर्नोग्राफी की लत भी पाई गयी है |
मनोविश्लेशकीय कारक:
मनोविश्लेषक डॉ.आलोक मनदर्शन के अनुसार किशोरवय अवस्था में सेक्स हार्मोन ‘एंड्रोजन’ बहुत तेजी से किशोरवय लोगों में मन मस्तिष्क पर हावी होने लगता है और यही वह समय होता है, जब ये लोग साइकोसेक्सुअल विकास के जेनाईटल-स्टेज से गुजर रहे होते है | इससे पहले वे ‘फैलिक-स्टेज’ से गुजर चुके होते है, जिसमे उनके मन में विपरीत लिंग के प्रति एक प्रकार का प्रतिकर्षण बना रहता है, परन्तु जेनाईटल-स्टेज में आने पे यह प्रतिकर्षण धीरे-धीरे आकर्षण में बदलने लगता है | यह आकर्षण ही आगे चलकर ‘हेट्रोसेक्सुअल-लिबिडो’ या ‘विपरीत-लिंगीं कामवासना’ की मनोदशा बनती है | परन्तु कुछ किशोरवय लोगो में ‘जेनाईटल-स्टेज’ में आने के बाद भी ‘फैलिक-स्टेज’ में उत्पन्न हुई ‘अपोजिट जेंडर अवर्जन’ या ‘विपरीत-लिंगी प्रतिकर्षण’ ख़त्म नहीं होता है | जिससे ‘समलिंगी कामवासना आकर्षण’ या ‘सेम जेंडर लिबिडो’ विकसित होने लगती है | और यही लोग आगे चलकर होमोसेक्सुअल बन जाते है | पुरुष होमोसेक्सुअल ‘गे’ और महिला होमोसेक्सुअल ‘लेस्बियन’ कहे जाते है | इसी प्रकार ‘जेनाईटल-स्टेज’ में कुछ किशोरवय लोगो में विपरीत लिंग के प्रति अति आकर्षण एक मादक खिचाव के रूप में हावी होने लगता है | जिससे उसकी कामवासना या लिबिडो का स्वस्थ विकास न होकर, अतिरेक रूप में इनके मन पे हाबी हो जाता है, जिससे वे अतिसेक्स की मनोदशा से हमेशा घिरे रहते है तथा नए-नए विपरीत लिंगी सेक्स सम्बन्ध बनाने की मनोबाध्यता से विवश रहते है | ऐसे पुरुष ‘हेट्रोसेक्सुअल-इरोटोमैनिया’ के ‘सटाइरोमैनिया’ तथा ऐसी महिला ‘निम्फोमैनिया’ रूप से ग्रसित होते है | यह सब एक प्रकार का ‘साइकोसेक्सुअल परवर्जन’ या ‘मनोसेक्स विकृति’ है जिसे समग्र रूप से ‘इरोटोमैनिया’ कहा जाता है |
ये मनोसेक्स विकृतिया प्राचीनकाल से पाई जाती रही है | आज के समय में तो ऐसे ढेर सारे क्लब भी अस्तित्व में आ चुके है जो होमोसेक्सुअल लोगो को पूर्ण स्वीकृति और सुलभता प्रदान कर रहे है तथा बहुत से होमोसेक्सुअल व हेट्रोसेक्सुअल ‘इरोटोमैनिया’ से ग्रसित लोग अपनी इस लत की स्वीकारोक्ति भी कर रहे है | इतना ही नहीं लिंग-परिवर्तन तक के केसेज सामने आ रहे है| ‘गे’ क्लब के लोगो की ‘सेक्सुअल-माड्यूल्स’ में भी विविधिता पाई जाती है जिसमे फिमेल-रोल-प्ले, मेल रोल-प्ले तथा मिक्स रोल-प्ले होता है, जिसे ये लोग अपनी कोड़ भाषा में कोथी,पंथी तथा डबलडेकर नाम से संबोधित करते है |
उपचार :
मनोविश्लेषक डॉ.आलोक मनदर्शन के अनुसार ‘इरोटोमैनिया’ के विभिन्न रूपों के शुरूआती लक्षणों के पता चलते ही इससे ग्रसित ‘गे’, ‘लेस्बियन’,'सटाइरोमैनिक’,व ‘निम्फोमैनिक’ लोगो को सर्वप्रथम इस बात के लिए जागरूक किया जाये कि ये लोग साइकोसेक्सुअल-डिसआर्डर के किसी न किसी रूप से ग्रसित है | मनोउपचार द्वारा उनकी अंतर्दृष्टि का विकास इस प्रकार किया जाये कि वे अपने इस लत के भावावेश से उत्पन्न तलब को बर्दाश्त कर सके, जिसके लिए वे अन्य किसी मनोरंजक गतिविधि का सहारा ले सकते है | ‘वर्चुअल एक्सपोजर थिरैपी’ तथा ‘फैंटसी डिसेंसिटाईजेशन थिरैपी’ ऐसे लोगो के लिए उतनी ही कारगर साबित होती है जितनी ही जल्दी इनका मनोउपचार शुरू कर दिया जाये | परिजनों का भावनात्मक सहयोग और उत्साहवर्धन बहुत ही जरूरी होता है, जिससे मरीज कुण्ठा व शर्मिन्दगी के मनोभाव से निकलकर मनोउपचार में सम्यक सहयोग कर सके |

Source : http://mannguru.jagranjunction.com/2012/08/06/%E0%A4%87%E0%A4%B0%E0%A5%8B%E0%A4%9F%E0%A5%8B%E0%A4%AE%E0%A5%88%E0%A4%A8%E0%A4%BF%E0%A4%AF%E0%A4%BEerotomania-%E0%A4%B9%E0%A5%80-%E0%A4%B2%E0%A5%87-%E0%A4%9C%E0%A4%BE%E0%A4%A4%E0%A4%BE-%E0%A4%B9/

How to Catch Cheating Husband or Wife

 Written by: Arpita De

There is no specific reason which may make a husband or wife seek love or physical intimacy outside the bounds of matrimony. For some, a mere disagreement may lead to cheating and for some years of discontent and apathy may cause them to cheat. However, for someone to catch a cheating husband or wife requires a deft eye.


How to catch a cheating husband or wife

Look for the Signs

There are unmistakable signs that will scream infidelity. For example, if every question that you ask feels like an interrogation for them and if they constantly accuse you of being suspicious, then there is definitely trouble in paradise. Either your spouse has already taken the plunge into cheating or s/he is seriously contemplating it. Also if you notice any sudden change in behaviour such as they are staying aloof, and spending more time on their computer or cell phone instead of trying to have a real conversation with you, then your marriage is in trouble.

Track their Phone

If you really want to know if your husband or wife is cheating on you or not, then keeping a tab on their cell phone might be a good start. Although if your spouse is cheating on you then s/he will probably delete all dubious incoming and outgoing messages and calls, there are software that retrieve deleted data. If you are convinced that your spouse is doing something fishy then you can also try and listen in on their conversations.

Internet Surveillance

These days, a lot of communication happens over emails and social networking sites. Keep a tab of your hubby’s or wifey’s social networking activities. Look for signs of any unusual activity. And if you have access to their passwords then you can check their email notifications for anything suspicious.

Background Check

Do you suspect your husband or wife has lied to you about their past? Are you worried an ex-flame has come into the picture? If the answer to all those questions is yes then a background check will you good. Trying and gather as much information as you can about your spouse’s past. Talk to his friends and family. And if all else fails, you can hire a private investigator to do the digging for you.

Seek Professional Help

If there is no way in which you can track your husband’s or wife’s activities then you can seek the services of a private investigator. These people are professionals and they can get you audio-visual proof. The ethical underpinning about hiring a private investigator to spy on a cheating husband or wife might be debatable, but there is surely no harm in trying if it looks like the last resort.

Confrontation

This is what you should do if you are sure that your husband or wife is cheating on you. Don’t play martyr and stay silent. Confront them and tell them that you know. You will be able to gauge by their immediate reaction if you are right or not. Most cheating spouses will try to cover up with a display of anger and slamming of doors. They may also try to exploit your trust by asking you questions such as, ‘How can you think that I will do something like that’. This is where your judgement will come into play and you have to decide whether you really want to believe them or not.

Catching a cheating spouse can be an emotionally traumatic experience. Therefore, make sure that you are absolutely certain that something is amiss in your marriage and that you need an answer. Also be prepared for its consequences. There might be heartbreak, meltdowns and in some very unlucky cases, separation.



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The meaning of love in Islam

The meaning of love in Islam

IT is so common that the meaning of love has been restricted in the modern age to the love relationship between a man and a woman. This is a very narrow-minded view of love. Islam has is own comprehensive view of love.


The first type of love that Islam calls for is the Love of Allah, praise be to Him. This love makes you avoid committing sins in order not to make whom you love, Allah, get angry with you. This love also urges you to contemplate all the different aspect of nature that usually lead you to have a deeper faith in the Creator who created all this beauty round us.


The second type of love is the love of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). This love also makes you follow the example of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) in all his dealings and manners. Also this love is an indication of the love of Allah as stated in the Holy Qur'an, "Say: 'If you do love Allah, Follow me: Allah will love you and forgive you your sins: For Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.'" Say: "Obey Allah and His Messenger: But if they turn back, Allah loves not those who reject Faith." (Qur'an, 3:31-32)


The third type of love is human love. It means that the Muslim has to love his other fellow men regardless of their ethnic, linguistic or cultural background. This includes love of neighbors, colleagues, relatives and even strangers. This type of love persuades the Muslim to help anybody whenever he can. There are numerous of Ahadith that exhort Muslims to help anybody who really needs help because such an altruistic act takes the Muslim one step closer to Allah.
The fourth type of love is the love between a man and a woman, but Islam organizes and regulates these lofty feelings within the framework of marriage because Islam views that marital love leads the couple to have a peaceful and happy family life, which is the core of the Muslim society.


In other words, this love is acceptable as long as it is within the framework of marriage and this is encouraged in a number of verses in the Holy Qur'an, "And among His signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put affection and mercy between you: verily in that are indeed signs for those who reflect: (Qur'an, 30:21)

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