Tuesday, July 19, 2011

How to Catch Cheating Husband or Wife

 Written by: Arpita De
There is no specific reason which may make a husband or wife seek love or physical intimacy outside the bounds of matrimony. For some, a mere disagreement may lead to cheating and for some years of discontent and apathy may cause them to cheat. However, for someone to catch a cheating husband or wife requires a deft eye.

How to catch a cheating husband or wife

Look for the Signs

There are unmistakable signs that will scream infidelity. For example, if every question that you ask feels like an interrogation for them and if they constantly accuse you of being suspicious, then there is definitely trouble in paradise. Either your spouse has already taken the plunge into cheating or s/he is seriously contemplating it. Also if you notice any sudden change in behaviour such as they are staying aloof, and spending more time on their computer or cell phone instead of trying to have a real conversation with you, then your marriage is in trouble.

Track their Phone

If you really want to know if your husband or wife is cheating on you or not, then keeping a tab on their cell phone might be a good start. Although if your spouse is cheating on you then s/he will probably delete all dubious incoming and outgoing messages and calls, there are software that retrieve deleted data. If you are convinced that your spouse is doing something fishy then you can also try and listen in on their conversations.

Internet Surveillance

These days, a lot of communication happens over emails and social networking sites. Keep a tab of your hubby’s or wifey’s social networking activities. Look for signs of any unusual activity. And if you have access to their passwords then you can check their email notifications for anything suspicious.

Background Check

Do you suspect your husband or wife has lied to you about their past? Are you worried an ex-flame has come into the picture? If the answer to all those questions is yes then a background check will you good. Trying and gather as much information as you can about your spouse’s past. Talk to his friends and family. And if all else fails, you can hire a private investigator to do the digging for you.

Seek Professional Help

If there is no way in which you can track your husband’s or wife’s activities then you can seek the services of a private investigator. These people are professionals and they can get you audio-visual proof. The ethical underpinning about hiring a private investigator to spy on a cheating husband or wife might be debatable, but there is surely no harm in trying if it looks like the last resort.


This is what you should do if you are sure that your husband or wife is cheating on you. Don’t play martyr and stay silent. Confront them and tell them that you know. You will be able to gauge by their immediate reaction if you are right or not. Most cheating spouses will try to cover up with a display of anger and slamming of doors. They may also try to exploit your trust by asking you questions such as, ‘How can you think that I will do something like that’. This is where your judgement will come into play and you have to decide whether you really want to believe them or not.

Catching a cheating spouse can be an emotionally traumatic experience. Therefore, make sure that you are absolutely certain that something is amiss in your marriage and that you need an answer. Also be prepared for its consequences. There might be heartbreak, meltdowns and in some very unlucky cases, separation.

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 Source : http://www.onlymyhealth.com/how-catch-cheating-husband-wife-1309344878

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

The meaning of love in Islam

The meaning of love in Islam
IT is so common that the meaning of love has been restricted in the modern age to the love relationship between a man and a woman. This is a very narrow-minded view of love. Islam has is own comprehensive view of love.

The first type of love that Islam calls for is the Love of Allah, praise be to Him. This love makes you avoid committing sins in order not to make whom you love, Allah, get angry with you. This love also urges you to contemplate all the different aspect of nature that usually lead you to have a deeper faith in the Creator who created all this beauty round us.

The second type of love is the love of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). This love also makes you follow the example of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) in all his dealings and manners. Also this love is an indication of the love of Allah as stated in the Holy Qur'an, "Say: 'If you do love Allah, Follow me: Allah will love you and forgive you your sins: For Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.'" Say: "Obey Allah and His Messenger: But if they turn back, Allah loves not those who reject Faith." (Qur'an, 3:31-32)

The third type of love is human love. It means that the Muslim has to love his other fellow men regardless of their ethnic, linguistic or cultural background. This includes love of neighbors, colleagues, relatives and even strangers. This type of love persuades the Muslim to help anybody whenever he can. There are numerous of Ahadith that exhort Muslims to help anybody who really needs help because such an altruistic act takes the Muslim one step closer to Allah.
The fourth type of love is the love between a man and a woman, but Islam organizes and regulates these lofty feelings within the framework of marriage because Islam views that marital love leads the couple to have a peaceful and happy family life, which is the core of the Muslim society.

In other words, this love is acceptable as long as it is within the framework of marriage and this is encouraged in a number of verses in the Holy Qur'an, "And among His signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put affection and mercy between you: verily in that are indeed signs for those who reflect: (Qur'an, 30:21)